Fathers’ habits vary in dealing with their children. Especially in conditions where the father has just returned from work and is required to directly interact with his child. A child must crave a father who is always kind to him. Did you know that there are habits of fathers that are very dangerous to do to there. Here are three of unhealthy habits from father.
1. Father puts too much pressure
When our children disrespect us, break the rules, or disobey, some fathers resort to closing the door altogether. This may include forcing the mother to take care of their child, neglecting to solve the problem by being passive or cold towards their child. But if you play the role of a father, your children will feel left out.
There’s no communication about what they’re doing wrong and no coaching, so they’ll wander around on eggshells, confused and full of anxiety that you’re suddenly unavailable to them. Resist the urge to close. Instead, solve problems one at a time so they don’t pile up on top of each other.
2. Father Overreacting Physically
Just because you’re not physically violent or abusive, doesn’t mean your physical reaction is okay. Maybe you aggressively grab something in your child’s hand or knock on his locked door in annoyance. Be careful not to get so frustrated that you always overreact physically. You can get angry at your child when they don’t listen to you, but you can respond with physical anger. It won’t inspire your child to behave well, but it will encourage them to move away from you.
Instead of getting physical, be loving. Be gentle, loving, and tender, especially when you are upset or frustrated. Even if your child does bad things and needs discipline, you can still teach with love instead of anger. Responses bring your child closer; others push him away.
3. Shouting or yelling too much
Giving orders is not the same as yelling out of frustration. This kind of response does nothing and only creates distance between you and your child. Instead, you should apologize and stop yelling. Yelling will eventually scare the child and make you afraid. If they are scared, they can get your attention and do what you say, but scaring them damages your relationship.
When you want good behavior from your children, you sacrifice your relationship with them to get it. Later, your children will avoid you instead of interfering. Yes, your children can complete the tasks you set to avoid your anger. Instead of yelling, try to calmly discuss what you need to do to keep the relationship intact while keeping your child well-behaved.
